Birth Control, Choice, and Adoption

As its latest step in the not so slow suicide of the Republican party, the Tea Partiers have upped the ante in their attack on women’s health to include birth control, for crying out loud!  But that’s not what this post is about, except that it reminded me of a topic I’ve been pondering for a long, long time.

I’m one of those folks whose stance on abortion throws the anti-choice crowd into a tailspin, in that I’m generally opposed to abortion, but staunchly pro-choice.  In part because it’s one of those issues that’s none of the government’s business.  In part because I’m an abortion that didn’t happen; my birth mother chose to carry me to term after which I was adopted, and most of the time I’m pretty happy to be here.

That said, here’s my ponder:  I know there are many adoptions by wonderful, loving parents resulting in a kind of happily ever after scenario.  I also know that there are many adoptions by couples who I believe were unable to conceive because they had absolutely no business raising a child.  My parents fall into the latter category.  I’ve come to think of it as natural selection; my religious friends call it God’s will.

My parents were wonderful, exceptional human beings, but they had no more business raising a child than does a rhinoceros jumping off a cliff in the belief that it can fly.  Back in 1946, screening for adoption consisted of checking for acceptable living conditions and “nice” people. 

I hope that since then the process has expanded to include an intensive psychological examination.  

Just sayin’. 

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3 Responses to Birth Control, Choice, and Adoption

  1. Becky Cochran says:

    I couldn’t agree more Stuie, I support a woman’s choice, but also do not like the thought of abortion. That said, I firmly believe the government is way out of line to ever think they should be involved in anyone’s choice about their own body; and for me that includes the right to die with some grace and dignity. In fact, for me, the government is way out of line or bounds about most things.
    You survived Stuie, you’ve been able to make a good life for yourself.

  2. Becky Cochran says:

    I couldn’t agree more Stuie, I support a woman’s choice, but also do not like the thought of abortion. That said, I firmly believe the government is way out of line to ever think they should be involved in anyone’s choice about their own body; and for me that includes the right to die with some grace and dignity. In fact, for me, the government is way out of line or bounds about most things.
    You survived Stuie, you’ve been able to make a good life for yourself.

  3. nameless says:

    I’m one of those who opted to carry to full term and adopt out. I wish I could say it was a happy ending, but not necessarily the case. I reunited with my daughter when she was approx. 30 yrs old (at her request)…and she was not particularly happy with her adopted parents…nor with me for “abandoning” her. I am a staunch believer in a person’s right to make decisions regarding their own body…including abortion. There are many, many thousands of children in our system who have not been adopted and never will be adopted and are not living the “good” life. Each case is individual and unique. Each person has the right to decide what is the best decision for them.

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